Hey daughter, it's important to know that you can be a princess AND still be kick-ass
I often hear parents say they will never refer to their daughter as a princess.
I understand where they are coming from as the term princess has been associated with negative connotations in recent times.
Some see it as meaning you're a helpless damsel in distress while for others, it means pampered and spoiled.
But what about all the little girls who want to be princesses? The girls who want to wear a crown while making their mark on the world. What about all the kick-ass princesses?
Today is International Women's Day and it made me think about what the word princess means to me.
I never saw 'princess' as being a weak word, probably because of the women that came to mind for me when I thought of it. I thought of Princess Leia commanding troops, I thought of Xena Warrior Princess, I thought of Wonder Woman Princess of Themyscira.
All of these women taught me that you can be a princess and still kick-ass. They taught me that you can be a princess that stands up for herself. They taught me that I could do anything the boys can do. They taught me to look after my fellow woman.
It wasn't just the fictional princesses that inspired me either. In my childhood home, there was a picture of Aoife MacMurrough, Princess of Leinster, who centuries ago commanded battles. Her military background earned her the name Red Aoife. Sometimes daughter, when I see you stomp your foot and roar, you remind me of her courage.
Know that when I call you a princess, it's not because I expect you to be dainty and delicate, it's just that I know you're going to grow up to rule everything that you do.
A princess can be the head of the sports team. A princess can be an astronaut. A princess can be an engineer. A princess can walk around in a tutu and a crown with an electric guitar on her back. I want you to know that you can be an unstoppable force of nature, that kicks ass and takes names and also like to be called a princess.
When I was little one of my favourite movies was A Little Princess and within it lies a great quote about what it is to be a princess;
"I am a princess. All girls are. Even if they live in tiny old attics. Even if they dress in rags, even if they aren’t pretty, or smart, or young. They’re still princesses."
Life can be tough sometimes. There will be days when you don't feel like you're the smartest or the funniest or the prettiest. On those days just remember that you are incredible, inside and out, and the ruler of your own destiny. So, fix your invisible crown, stay up tall and let them know that there is a princess here... and she kicks ass!