A young woman who describes herself as having “literally zero romantic experience” has taken to reddit to ask users for advice.
The woman is looking for insight into why she may be having problems with relationships.
“I feel like people are going to blame two things for my extremely late blooming, so I’ll go ahead and say that I’m neither ugly nor religious. I’m 5’10 and 140 pounds, so on the smaller end of average. I work out. I dress nicely (or at least I get complements) and I can do makeup reasonably well. I’m not stunningly gorgeous or anything, but I’m okay. I also don’t have any faith-based hang-ups about dating before marriage or sexual purity. I was raised in a big, secular city by parents who went to church twice a year and consider myself agnostic.”
The poster explains that she’s in law school but her datelessness began long before her time in college.
“I was dateless long before law school. I have three possible explanations: I’m introverted, I come off like a prude, and I have a weird personality,” she writes.
She explains that due to her introversion she finds it hard to notice social cues like flirting.
“I don’t like going out to clubs or bars. During my undergrad, I mostly studied hard and hung out with a small circle of friends. There wasn’t much else to do in a small college town. I don’t think that makes me deep or special or anything; I just don’t like dark rooms and drunk strangers and loud music. But, as a result of my limited social interaction, I’m really bad at meeting new people and noticing when they’re interested in me. My friends tell me that I’ve been hit on a bunch of times, and I’ve never noticed or responded appropriately. Is there a way to get better at these social cues?” she asks.
She admits that her interests are a tad unconventional and worries that this might be the root of the problem.
“I’m obsessed with regional lore and military history, my favourite genre of music is folk metal, I love arguing for fun, and my sense of humor runs pretty dark. I’m worried that people who start off interested in me are scared off by my less conventional interests, whereas people who share them don’t think of me as a viable romantic candidate based on first impressions,” she says.
She closes by pleading with people for advice.
“Any advice/criticism?? Will the combo of my age and inexperience make online dating impossible? Any other venues where I could meet people? Anybody else been in this situation? I’m open to all input at this point,” she writes.
So, do your stuff Internet, what should she do?
