Ah, the harsh and cruel world of online dating.
It can be really tough putting your trust in cyber strangers and looking for love.
Sometimes you’ll come across a wonderful Tinderfella, or catch an absolute ride on Plenty of Fish but sadly, the chance are for every good guy, there are two jerks.
One such jerk recently popped up on Bumble.
Bumble is a relatively new app that forces women to make the first move.
Their website explains:
“The woman always makes the first move, and if she doesn’t say something to a new connection within 24 hours, that connection disappears forever!”
In their guidelines they advocate for manners and respect.
“We’re a very diverse community. This means you should respect other people’s beliefs, interests and property while on Bumble. You should behave the same way on Bumble as you would in real life” they write.
So when a horrid user popped up recently the founder was quick to respond.
These screenshots detail the exchange between a user named Connor and a user named Ashley.
Bumble posted an open letter on their blog calling him out on his offensive response.
They write:
Dear Connor,
It has been brought to our attention that you lost your cool on one of our female users named Ashley. She made small talk, you felt personally attacked. She mentioned her work day and asked about yours; you assumed that she was prying into your financial status.
We are going to venture a guess into the state of mind of Ashley here, given that we are all working women ourselves. Take a seat, because this concept may blow your mind. Women nowadays work. It’s happened over time, we know, but a vast majority of women from our generation have jobs.
With that in mind — and knowing that Ashley simply mentioned work in the conversation — we can gather that she wasn’t hoping to figure out if your wallet was sizeable enough for her to move into your house and start cooking dinner for you after vacuuming your living room while you clock in a 9 to 5 work day. Instead, Ashley was (wait for it, Connor, because this is where things really get interesting), viewing herself as an equal. It might sound crazy, but people connect over the basic routines of life. You know… the weather, working out, grabbing a drink, eating, and working.
And while you may view this as “neo-liberal, Beyonce, feminist-cancer,” and rant about the personal wounds you are trying to heal from classic “entitled gold digging whores,” we are going to keep working. We are going to expand our reach and make sure that women everywhere receive the message that they are just as empowered in their personal lives as they are in the workplace. We are going to continue to build a world that makes small-minded, misogynist boys like you feel outdated.
We are going to hope that one day, you come around. We hope that the hate and resentment welling up inside of you will subside and you’ll be able to engage in everyday conversations with women without being cowardice to their power. But until that day comes, Connor, consider yourself blocked from Bumble.
Never yours,
The Bumble Hive
#ImWithAshley
#LaterConnor
