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23rd December 2015
06:38pm GMT

A new study, the Harris Interactive poll, found that of 1,000 adults interviewed in relationships, the average couple had three arguments a month thanks to their finances.
While half of the survey participants said they argued mostly about unexpected expenses, a further 32 per cent said the arguments were about insufficient savings – which can add to the pressure of an already expensive time of year.
So what’s the best way to battle a currency conflict?
Relationship psychologist Les Parrott is quick to point out that while the money might seem like the main issue, it’s really a fear that’s fuelling that fight.
Writing for Relevant magazine, Parrott explains:
“Instead of fighting over the amount of money that was spent on who-knows-what, shift the focus toward what really matters: (1) your fear of not having influence in important issues impacting your life, (2) your fear of not having security in your future, (3) your fear of having no respect shown for your values, or (4) your fear of not realizing your dreams.”
While it might sound like a serious enough topic while you’re topping up the mulled wine, some open conversation now might heal some relationship rifts come Stephen’s Day when you check the bank balance.Explore more on these topics: