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22nd April 2018
02:24pm BST

According to a relationship expert, there might be a reason why people who don't want to be single are still single... and it has nothing to do with the lack of suitable partners floating around the place.
Relationship psychologist Melanie Schiling told Huff Post Australia that most single people actually have a pretty big role in keeping themselves single - even if they don't want to be.
She said that most people are afraid of being hurt again and that fear turns into a scepticism that stops them from wanting to meet anyone new.
Essentially, we're all too good at protecting ourselves from harm that we find it difficult to let other people in.
"There is a difference between being healthily sceptical and undermining your own happiness," Schiling said.
In her opinion, there are three things that are stopping people from finding new relationships.
The first is believing that you "don't deserve happiness" or that you're "better off alone."
The second is the belief that all men or women are the same, and that just because something negative happened to you in one relationship, it's automatically going to happen again.
And the third is assuming that all relationships are the same and that having one will make you less independent... because, understandably, if you're in a healthy one, it won't.
All seems simple enough until you're getting ghosted for the eighth time in a month though, doesn't it?Explore more on these topics: