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7th April 2015
05:01pm BST

The director of Wellness Education at Smith College, Nagoski says that the term sex drive limits the discussion to spontaneous desire – which can leave women feeling uncomfortable about their own sexual appetite if it doesn’t appear quite as hungry as the rumoured ‘normal’.
Writing her piece for The New York Times, Nagoski adds:
"But I can't count the number of women I've talked with who assume that because their desire is responsive, rather than spontaneous, they have 'low desire'; that their ability to enjoy sex with their partner is meaningless if they don't also feel a persistent urge for it; in short, that they are broken, because their desire isn't what it's 'supposed' to be.”
The author goes on to suggest that body confidence, feeling accepted and “(not least) explicitly erotic stimulation” are all factors that add to the breakdown in a woman’s sex-drive.
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