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26th Nov 2018

Irish bride shares her heartache after her sister did the unthinkable ahead of her wedding day

"I’ve spent the last two days crying over things I shouldn’t be..."

Denise Curtin

“I’ve spent the last two days crying over things I shouldn’t be…”

Last week, an Irish bride’s story went viral on RTÉ Radio 1’s Ryan Tubridy Show. Ryan shared a “letter never sent” from a bride who asked to remain anonymous when revealing how her sister tried to ruin her big day by getting engaged six weeks ahead of her wedding.

The bride, who was left devastated by the engagement announcement told Ryan how her sister basically scrapped all wedding preparations to start planning for her engagement leaving the bride hurt and with more duties on her plate.

The bride, overcome with emotion decided to write a letter to her sister explaining her anger and feelings of betrayal.

The letter which was never sent reads as follows:

“Dear sister, It is now six and a half weeks to my wedding, and I’ve been putting together invites and trying to get them off in the post.

“It’s a very stressful time and I’ve had to compromise my wedding plans for a lot of people I don’t know. To top it all, I’ve spent the last two days crying over things I shouldn’t be.

“Now don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for you. I’m delighted that you’ve found someone who makes you happy and who you wish to spend the rest of your life with.

“But could you not have waited another six weeks before announcing your engagement?

“You only get engaged and married once, and the run-up to my wedding should be a special time. I’ve the hen night coming up in two weeks and forgive me for being a bridezilla but the focus should be on me and my day, not you and your engagement!

“We’re not children anymore, and life is not a competition, therefore I’ve decided to write these things down, and I will seal this letter and consider posting it after my wedding.”

Continuing she said…

“Please forgive me for not being very enthusiastic about your engagement but I’m finding it very hard to muster a smile at the moment.

“I’m so hurt that neither you nor your fiance thought for one moment the impact it would have on me and mine, it should be our time to shine and our wedding, and you have thoughtlessly taken that away.

“You both will have your time in the future, I hope nobody does to you what you’ve done to me.

“I’ve not spoken to anyone about my hurt as I would not like to take away any of your happiness nor would I take that off Mammy, Daddy and the lads, and letting them know and upsetting them and cause disagreement.

“Too many people have helped me so far to be overshadowed.

“Dear bridesmaid, thank you for your thoughtfulness. Though I’m not really surprised.” The letter concludes.

The letter is now 10-years-old and the response Tubridy received to the show was phenomenal, with many moved to tears by the contents of the letter.