What Wedding Etiquette? Crazy Bride Demands A Gift From Best Friend

Weddings, also known as ‘the happiest day in a couples’ life’, in recent years have arguably become less and less about the vows. Just when we thought we’d heard all of the crazy bride stories possible, we read this.

Glamour received an email from one miffed former best friend ‘Gretchen’ of bride-to-be ‘Brandy’ that explained the bride was pressuring her to give a gift preferably a sum of money. Brandy sent a succession of not-so-subtle hints that the she and her fiancé were struggling for money.  

23-year-old Gretchen explained to childhood friend, Brandy, that she was experiencing serious financial difficulty. Being a student that unexpectedly just lost her job, she assured her friend TWICE that she would give her a gift when she could, and that she'd be calling with a card. Bridezilla replied, “it's still something instead u coming for free ya know.” [sic]

Here are the exchange of text messages between the girls, you’ll understand what we meant by not-so-subtle.

“Brandy: Yrs sucks but really will help us with bills

Gretchen: What I have to give you won't help at all, unfortunately - lost my job right before the wedding, which was completely unexpected and now that school has started I've spent so much money on books and tuition. Had I known, ever, that four parties were going to be held in your honor this year, I would have saved it all and given it to you in a lump sum instead

Brandy: Ok but it's still something instead u coming for free ya know

Gretchen: I'll be by with the card later, if you're not home, I'll leave it with your mother

Brandy: Ill be home

Brandy: So I understand ur strapped for money should I not send an invite for the baby shower in November” [SIC]

Gretchen did call by Brandy’s home later that day, however had something else to give her along with the card. The bride-to-be instead had this delightful letter to read, detailing Gretchen’s disgust.

“I have known you for ten years now and I cannot believe that you would not just appreciate my sharing the biggest day of your life with you…

Here is an idea: if you cannot afford a wedding, then do not have one. If you cannot pay your bills by yourself, then do not bring a child in to this world, do not go on vacations and finally, do not dare to make your friends/family feel financially responsible for your decisions/parties/extravagances.”[sic]

Here is the full letter, with one cent cellotaped to the top of the A4 sheet. Nice touch Gretchen, nice touch.