'If you're talking to 18 year olds, it's too late' - Louise O'Neill on consent
On this week's episode of Girls With Goals, we're joined by author Louise O'Neill and fashion designer Emma Manley. Aside from talking about award-winning books and CRAZY clothes envy, we decided to challenge ourselves to take on the problems of our listeners.
The social media call out was made and we got some incredible feedback on issues that, to be perfectly honest, we're in no position to solve. Either way, it made for some interesting analysis, and it's always nice to know that other people are going through similar things... right?
From work crushes (43.27) to keeping surnames after marriage (12.20) and consent (38.27), the 'Agony Aunts' cover it all. Listen to the full episode below or keep reading for more.
The issue of consent is topical right now, no one can deny that. It's a necessary and crucial component of modern society and we weren't surprised when one listener got in touch to ask about the importance of early education. She put this question to our panel:
"With consent, it appears that time and time again if someone isn't aggressively and verbally saying no, there is a sentiment that it wasn't communicated. How can we teach young men and women to communicate with each other and understand each others verbal and non-verbal skills?" - Anon
Louise O'Neill, author of the newly released and much heralded Almost Love, dealt with the issue of consent in her previous book Asking For It:
"It was really interesting with Asking For It. I was going to schools and talking to young people, girls and boys, about issues that were raised in the novel and very often the principal or the teacher would say we'll probably deal with 5th and 6th years as parents will feel uncomfortable with you talking to kids younger than that".
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Louise went on to explain that in one instance she was asked not to use the word rape at all:
"I had to give a speech to a group of 2nd years and they were like, 'if you don't mind we'd prefer if you didn't use the word rape', and I was like ... well that's going to make talking about this book about rape difficult. That's a real issue, if you're talking to 18-year-olds it's too late. They're already having sex at that age, we need to be talking about sex at a much younger age."
Also on this week's episode, we're joined by Melissa Reddy, senior football correspondent with JOE.co.uk. Melissa opens up about growing up in apartheid South Africa, gaining respect in her field, and making it in a man's world.
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