Angela is a solicitor in her late thirties. She has always wanted to have her own children, and those maternal instincts grew stronger as her friends started to have families of their own. With no sign of the right man coming along, and the window of opportunity quickly closing, she took an alternative route to becoming a mother.
Angela's child was conceived on her lunch break, by a man she has never seen, never held, or even touched. That morning, she had gone to work like any ordinary day.
That afternoon, she returned to her desk after a life-changing moment. Unknown to her colleges she had just received artificial insemination, and in the weeks that followed she would learn that it was successful.
Angela's sperm donor is from Denmark which is where most Irish women get donor sperm. The Danish sperm bank Cryos is the world's biggest and it ships sperm to over 70 countries. They have a web-based database where prospective mothers can browse through hundreds of donor profiles, not unlike shopping online.
Using a login, they can search by ethnicity, eye and hair colour, height and weight. Angela chose a donor who is similar to her in looks; tall and fair. In some countries, such as the UK, legislation is in place to give children to right to identity their father, so it is illegal to use anonymous donors. In Ireland, both anonymous and non-anonymous donors are permitted. Angela chose an anonymous donor.
One of Angela's reasons for wanting her own children is that she herself is adopted. She never met her birth parents, and always wondered what it would be like to have a relative that looks like her.
Her dad is a 78 year-old widower living in rural Tipperary. He is very supportive of Angela's decision; after all, he has a firsthand experience of wanting a child and taking extra steps to have one.
Angela’s story is set to air on RTÉ Radio 1 this Saturday, November 9th at 2pm, as a documentary follows her journey to motherhood; her reasons for making this choice, the support she has from friends and family, the sounds of her baby's heart beating, her labour groans and her newborn's first cry.
