Does Doing it Like a Dude Actually Work?

When Jessie J first burst onto the music scene, she was a woman on a mission. That mission? Eh…extolling the advantages of ‘doing it like a dude.’

Basically, she wanted all of us women folk to ‘man up’ when it came to dealing with our relationships and with our lives. For Jessie J, the best women out there are the ladies who can give the male species a run for their money when it comes to speaking their mind and going after what they want.

Think of it as girl power, except with a beard, a pair of boxers and an extra helping of testosterone.

You have to admit, Ms J does make a valid point, but does utilizing man-power actually work? And, more importantly, how can we make it work for us?

Manning Up In Your Career:

When it comes to their career, men aren’t afraid to speak up and tackle their boss. If things aren’t going the way that they want, they have no qualms about setting up a meeting and addressing the issue with their employer. If they feel like they deserve a promotion, more time off, more responsibility – they just ask for it outright.

If you feel like your current boss is taking you for granted, it might be worth adopting a male attitude here.

Do a bit of research about your place of employment. Have a logical argument planned as to why you deserve that raise or some time off, be brave and approach your boss. If anything, they’re likely to respect your guts to bring up a difficult topic with them.

The important thing to remember is that men are always calm and logical when they’re arguing their case. Never make demands. Instead ask for what you want in a nice way. For example, rather than saying: “Give me more money now!” say: “I’ve been here for three years. I do this and this and work this many hours. I wanted to approach you with the hopes of discussing a raise.”

Manning Up In Your Friendships:

Male friendships are a hell of a lot less complicated than female friendships. Fact. How many times has your boyfriend fallen out with his bestie? Now, in comparison, how many times have you and your BFF had a fight?

The reason male friendships are so harmonious is the simple fact that men are happy to let things go. If his mate is a bit of a flake and cancels on him at the last minute, he doesn’t hold a grudge. He just accepts said friend’s apology and gets on with his life.

Us women, however, are guilty of holding grudges. True story.

Why not take a leaf out of his book and relax a little when it comes to your friendships? The next time a friend does something annoying just let it go. You’ll be happier and there’ll be less drama in your life.

Manning Up In Your Relationships:

The best thing about our male counterparts is the fact that we always know what they’re thinking. Always. They pretty much wear their hearts on their sleeves, which makes it super-easy for us when it comes to dating and relating.

Now, just imagine how they feel when they ask us what’s wrong and we hiss the word “FINE!” out through our gritted teeth. Yeah. He’s none the wiser as to what’s wrong and our anger grows at the fact that he can’t figure out why we’re upset.

Manning up in your relationship has many benefits. Imagine how harmonious things would be between you and your sweetheart if you opened up and told him exactly how you felt?

Imagine how happy he’d be now that he doesn’t have to decipher every single facial expression you make in desperate attempt to understand you? Imagine how happy you’d be to get all that emotional stuff off your chest?

We think it’s a win-win situation.

 

So what do you think ladies? Is man power the new girl power? We haven’t reached a definitive conclusion yet, but we’re starting to think it could have some major benefits…