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Published 15:33 9 Aug 2021 BST
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Body Mass Index is calculated by taking your weight in kilos, and dividing it by the square of your height in metres. The result puts you into one of four categories: Underweight (less than 18.5), Normal (18.5-24.9), Overweight (25.0-29.9) or Obese (30+).
Invented in the 19th century, BMI is now considered my many to be an archaic and arbitrary measurement devise that doesn't say enough about a person to inform a medical decision with any great authority. But inform decisions it does, much to the anger of many people who find themselves at the mercy of the measurement method.
Olwyn Boyle is from Tipperary but lives in Dublin with her dog, Dougal. Like many hopeful parents who find themselves single in their late thirties, Olwyn has been exploring the many alternative avenues available in pursuit of being a mother. She generously shares her story on Instagram and has created a community of like-minded mothers-in-waiting to make the solo road a little less lonely. The road is a tough one and Olwyn has hit her fair share of speed bumps along the way, but one unexpected issue that has stymied her progress multiple times is her BMI, as she explains: "I was in touch with Tusla to try and start the adoption process. They’re the organisation that give you an adoption passport. Without it, I can’t adopt either domestically or internationally. I attended one of their online course days and it came up about BMI. They said, if your BMI was over 34 or 35, it was unlikely that you'd be eligible to adopt. Before Covid I had a stage school for children. I work as a Clown Doctor visiting children in hospitals. All I know is children. "I waited until the end of the conference and asked them, ‘does this mean I cannot apply to adopt a child, even though I have space in my home and I want to help a child?' And they said it did, that it was unlikely I'd be chosen. When I asked why, they explained that medically, my life expectancy is shorter because of my BMI." https://www.instagram.com/p/B9WRfPInzKv/ Describing her heartbreak at this news Olwyn said: "I was devastated. It doesn’t make sense. Only fat people die? How do people not understand that we were all made different? If we’re only going on BMI, sports people who have a high body mass index of muscle are not going to be able to adopt either. It’s just so strange. They don’t mention any other health assessments at that point – I was purely told about BMI. "When you are further along in the process, there’s Garda vetting and health screening. It’s common sense that you probably shouldn’t be adopting if you have problems with gambling, drugs or alcohol, or if there’s a domestic abuse situation in the home. But none of these things come up initially – only BMI. It was the only thing mentioned in the initial stages as a massive no-no." Olwyn's issue isn't with health of a potential parent being taken into account, but the fact that BMI is how that health is measured: "In my opinion, I should have had a fitness test over a BMI rating. It’s discriminative. If, after a fitness test, they came back and said ‘unfortunately your heart rate is showing XYZ, or your lifestyle is so and so’ – that’s what’s wrong and that’s what should be fixed." With the doors of adoption closed to her, Olwyn began her journey to become a solo parent by choice. "I went to two different Irish fertility clinics. One didn’t bring up BMI at all I had an IUI treatment that unfortunately wasn’t successful. I then went to explore the double donor avenue, but they said, because of my BMI they wouldn’t be able to do it. That really upset me." With no Irish options left open to her, Olwyn began looking further afield: "Since then, I’ve come over to IVF Serum in Greece for treatment and haven’t been asked to stand on a weighing scales to establish BMI over here. But I was tested for diabetes. My thyroid was checked. I was tested for absolutely everything, rather than just judged by my weight on a scales. "BMI does not define a person. It’s an old age calculation of weight against height. It doesn’t weigh my heart. It doesn’t weigh my ability. And it doesn’t weigh the love that I could give a child. "I don’t blame the organisations or the staff. I just think the guidelines are outdated. I’m not the first person and I won’t be the last person who’s been affected by this. But it seems to alien to me that in this day and age that when all children need is a home filled with warmth and love, that it might only come down to your BMI." Olwyn's treatment is ongoing in Greece, where's she's set up home for a few weeks. Since this piece was first published, Olwyn has become pregnant and is now expecting her first child. https://www.instagram.com/p/CRPa8dAHtie/ But her story is not unique. She's one of several Irish women denied healthcare based on the antiquated measurement. Here, they anonymously share their personal stories.
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