Getting It On Alone: The DOs & DON’Ts of Solo Sex

Masturbation – it’s a touchy subject (excuse the pun). It’s something that all of us do, yet when it comes to talking about a bit of ‘self-love’ there’s a serious lack of discourse.

Earlier this week, Anna Kendick made us LOL and subsequently spit our tea everywhere when she came out with this absolute hum-dinger on Twitter:

And Anna’s not the only celebrity who has spoken publicly about the joy of some intimate alone time. They’re all at it.

So when it comes to masterbation what are the DOs and DON’Ts in order for you to give yourself a satisfying experience?

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DO: Get in the Mood

The most important thing you can do before you embark on a self-love session is to make sure you’re in the right mood, if you know what we mean. Setting the right atmosphere is something that is different for every person. Maybe all you need to do is picture Ryan Gosling for five minutes or maybe you need to take a shower or put on some music. Whatever it is, just make sure that you feel comfortable and relaxed.

DON’T: Forget to check your privacy

The last thing that you want is for your mother/sister/housemate to barge in on you when you’re in the middle of getting more, ahem, acquainted with yourself. Always make sure your door is closed or locked. It also helps to put your phone on silent too.

DO: Find out what works for you

There’s no right way to masterbate. Basically if it feels pleasurable for you and you enjoy it, that’s all that matters. If you’re at a complete loss as to where to start, sex experts recommend thinking about what turns you on and simply exploring your body with your hands.

Don't be ashamed of having some naughty fantasies

DON’T: Be intimidated by toys

When it comes to self-love, most women enjoy using a toy. The best thing about sex toys in this day and age is that you can find thousands of super-helpful reviews online (this is great if the thought of going into an actual sex shop and asking for advice makes you feel absolutely mortified).

Why not do a little bit of research and, if you see something that you like, treat yourself. Most online adult shops will ship your present straight to your door in a nondescript brown paper parcel to avoid any blushes when you open your door to the postman.

DO: Allow your imagination to run wild

One of the main points of masturbation is to have fun and to figure out what really turns you on. Feel free to allow your imagination to run wild. Imagine having sex with your favourite celebrity or trying out that fantasy you’ve always wanted to experience. Relax and enjoy yourself.

DO: Remember it’s healthy and completely normal

Despite what people will have you believe, masturbation is something that everyone does. It’s completely normal and any sex expert out there will tell you it’s a perfectly healthy way to express your sexuality. If you feel a bit embarrassed about it why not just think of it like this: masturbation is simply having sex with someone you love (yourself!).