Her Sexpert Advice: We’ve Got All Of The Ins And Outs… Part III

In the very last of a three part series, our friends over at Secrets Ireland will be answering your questions about sex, sex toys and everything else you have ever wanted to know about intimacy. So if you’ve got a question, just ask! In Part I we answered queries on how to go about introducing toys to partners and tackled hygiene issues, Part II was all about bringing the buzz to the bedroom, however in Part III we're answering all the things in between. _________________________________________________________ Q. My boyfriend wants to ‘invest’ in a penis pump, but I’m not entirely sure what it does or how it’s used or whether I’m comfortable with the idea?! (Ruth - North Dublin) Do not feel embarrassed for asking this question, here at Secrets Ireland we get this query a lot, even men don't know how to use a penis pump or the benefits of having one. A penis pump is also referred to as a penis extender and helps to give increased length and girth by expanding the penis through increased blood flow. If you’re partner has ever had any problems maintaining or simply getting an erecting then is a worthy investment. As the old saying goes, don't knock it until you've tried it, a penis pump can prove an interesting piece of equipment to introduce into the bedroom. If your partner wants to purchase a penis pump purely for the fun aspect then the Pump Worx Travel Trio penis pump set is a perfect option. For more information and benefits you can check out Secrets Ireland.   Q. I met my boyfriend a few months ago and we have a lot of sex but I'm beginning to think he may have a problem. Is sex addiction a real thing? (Lucy - Carlow) Sex addiction is very much a real thing and should be treated like any of the other addictions. In the 'honeymoon' stages of a relationship couples do tend to engage in more sexual activity however a heightened sex drive should not be mistaken as being the behaviour of a 'sex addict'. Sex addiction can be defined by any sexual activity that feels out of control. This could involve sex with a partner but it may include activities such as pornography, masturbation, prostitution or the use of online chat rooms. Sex addicts find controlling these urges almost impossible, and can often lead to problems in their relationships, finances and professional lives. Like a substance or alcohol addiction, sex addicts suffer from withdrawal symptoms and need to get their 'fix' or 'high'. The good news is that there are a number of counselling services available to help you identify and approach the problem with your partner. It's always best to chat to professionals before to self diagnose. You can check them out by clicking here.   Q. It's my third wedding anniversary at the end of the month and I wanted to surprise my husband with a few extra accessories for the bedroom. He has seen just about every piece of nice lingerie at this stage and I was hoping to try something a little different! (Yes, I may have read 50 Shades of Grey). (Nadine - Kerry) Change is always good and you're never too old for some innocent bondage! Have you ever considered dabbling in a little BDSM? Taking charge and getting a little bossy in the bedroom can heat things up a LOT. If you enjoy your foray into the realms of kink maybe it might be worth investing in this Fetish Fantasy Pink Bondage Kit, take charge and let him know he’s going to do everything you tell him to. Lie him down, tie him up and do whatever your heart desires (within reason). Once when you’ve had your fun you can always switch positions. It is good to note that explicit underwear is the sexual equivalent of a business suit – it puts you in the right frame of mind for what you’re about to do and you know your man will appreciate it too!   Sex should be fun and exciting, not boring and mundane, so if you want to try something new then you can check out the wide range of products on the Secrets Ireland website over here. If you would like a question answered feel free to email us at hello@her.ie. Until next time ladies, here is a small token to head over and redeem on the site… it’s been a pleasure.