Weekend sex is comparable to cooking a Christmas turkey.
It’s better when it’s slow and takes all day.
It’s the classic case of the tortoise and the hare – slow and steady wins the race.
We are aware, however, that this puts a bit of pressure on our male partners to go the distance.
For this reason, we have compiled a list of easy ways to help him hold out so that you can reach the finish line together.
Sexercise
We all know the pelvic floor exercise work wonders for women (thanks to Sex & the City‘s Samantha), but it’s a lesser known fact that they are beneficial to men too, particularly when it comes to their stamina. By squeezing and releasing his pelvic muscles (the area between the tailbone and the genitals), studies found men could improve their stamina significantly over a twelve week period.
Sexting
Getting sexty and encouraging him to masturbate before you guys even meet up is a great way of ensuring he’ll be able to go for longer later. Time is of the essence here, though. He might need a few hours to recuperate before he’s ready to go again, so allow for this.
Let him watch
This might sound counter-intuitive (we thought the point was that he DOESN’T get too horny?!) but it’s a great way of lengthening the whole experience and gives you a head start meaning you’ll have a better chance of finishing at the same time.
Girl on top
This is a no-brainer, when the girl is on top she has more control and can regulate the pace. If you feel him getting too excited, just slow it down until he’s calmer. Emily Morse Ph.D, who hosts Sex with Emily, suggests that taking the initiative in the situation will help him to feel like you’re a team and it’s not just up to him to pull it out of the bag.
Start Stop
Once things are up and running, take little breathers every now and then and target his other erogenous zones or enjoy a deep kiss for a bit before getting going again.
Wrap up
Condoms help to desensitise his penis and thus enable him to last longer. There are even special desensitising brands – They contain a small amount of benzocaine or lidocaine, which slightly decrease sensation in his penis and help him last longer.
The 7 – 9 technique
This trick is similar to the Kama Sutra – it’s all about rhythm and mindfullness.
Morse recommends her favorite the 7 and 9 technique. “It’s 7 fast in/out strokes, followed by 9 slow in/out strokes. Then repeat: 7 fast, 9 slow, 7 fast, 9 slow.
“This rhythm is good for guys who don’t last quite as long as their partner needs, and good for the ladies as it establishes a good rhythm for her stimulation too.”
