When it comes to having sex, most of us don’t mind being a bit durrrrty in the bedroom. However, when it comes to talking durrrty to our partner, we tend to freeze and get a bit flustered.
In many relationships, dirty talk is, essentially, a big dirty elephant in the bedroom. We worry about what words we should say, what phrases we should use and just how badly we’ll embarrass ourselves if we get it wrong (morto or what?). However, we’re intrigued by the idea and know that it could probably add an extra bit of spice to our sex life.
If you’re game to try out a bit of the nasty-speak, but have no idea where to start here are a few tips to help ease you into things. You’ll be dropping those filthy phrases in your man’s ear in no time!
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1. Start slowly: It’s always a good idea to be a bit tame when you’re just getting started – this will help you to judge your man’s reaction. Whisper that you’ve been thinking about him all day. Give him a compliment – tell him how much you love his arms/bum/abs/whatever. Try and keep your voice slightly breathy – think Scarlett Johansson or Marilyn Monroe. Give your man a few kisses in the neck/ear area.
2. Kick it up a notch: There’s a good chance that he’ll respond with something along the lines of “I’ve been thinking about you too.” If he says this, ask him what exactly has been going through his mind. If he needs a little bit of coaxing, maybe suggest to him that you’ve been thinking about taking him to bed all day.
A good tip is to cover your man’s eyes – this will make sure that he doesn’t see your blushes, especially if you’re feeling a little embarrassed.
When done properly, dirty talk can be an awesome way to heat up your bedroom fun.
3. Start Talking: Once the tone of your conversation has heated up a fair bit, it’s time to start actually talking dirty. If you’re feeling a bit risqué, be blatantly honest (as in “I want you to do this, this and this right now!”). If you’re still feeling a bit shy about the entire then, then think about the last bit of sexy time yourself and your man had. Tell him, in explicit detail, what you enjoyed about it.
4. Move it: The last thing you want is all talk and no action, so ask your man what he wants to do tonight. Pick him up and lead him to the bedroom. If you’re feeling cheeky, keep your dirty dialogue going throughout your session.
The key with dirty talk is to keep it simple and to take things slow and steadily. Don’t start yelling filthy things at him as soon as he comes home from work. Pick your moment, relax and have fun with it. Channel your inner Dita Von Tease and enjoy the experience. And hey, you never know when your man might catch you off guard with some saucy sentences in the future…
