If you’re feeling like your passion is dwindling, or that the sex just isn’t what it should be in your relationship, then it might have something to do with your online action. According to psychotherapist Phillipa Perry, young people are more confused about sex than ever thanks to our over-familiarity with pornography. Thanks to explicit videos, images and social media, Perry argues that young people are unable to focus on normal and healthy relationships after they become so used to the media they’re consuming on a daily basis. The psychotherapist also saw an increase in men increasingly turning to advice columns to educate themselves about real sex after becoming engrossed in pornography. Speaking about the effects media is having on sexual relationships amongst young people, Perry said: “These days people educate themselves about sex usually by watching the freely available pornography. They get a skewed idea about sex, thinking women have to be one way and it’s all about submission and domination when of course it isn’t. “People get the wrong idea about sex and lose their way because of pornography. I’m not against pornography but it is not the most helpful of sex education tools. The danger these days is posed by people being exposed too young to a certain type of sex and then they tend to think that is what sex is.” Perry now argues that people are now exposed to pornography, often depicting aggressive and violent sex, at too young of an age. She said "it’s worse now, but I’m an old person so I would say that." So how can you secure a better sex life? It’s all about the open conversation apparently. It’s all about talking about what you like, how you like it and being open to talking about your comfort zones. Proof that talk doesn’t have to be cheap.