What would you do?
This is bizarre!
Weddings are full of pressure, and one of the biggest pressures is choosing your bridesmaids. There will inevitably be someone who gets offended for not being asked, but most people keep quiet or have a conversation about it with the bride.
This woman’s sister however, had a very different approach.
The bride-to-be took to Reddit to ask people for advice on the tricky subject.
In a thread, the bride named richiebitchie writes about how one of her sisters, Mary, offered her $10,000 dollars if she would get rid of her sister Anne as maid of honour and have Mary instead.
If you’re thinking this Mary one seems a bit crazy, you might be right.
“My older sister Mary was always daddy’s little girl and she grew up cruel, selfish, and conceited just like him. My little sister and I have never been close with her or our father but we’ve always been there for each other.
When my father passed last year he left Mary the bulk of his estate. Mary is flashing about town with the cash while my sister and I have been struggling to help our ailing mother get by. Mary visits our mom once in awhile and spends her time there making the kind of cruel comments our father made and texting. I really don’t like her but she mostly ignored me until now.
My younger sister Anne has always been the great beauty of the three of us and my older sister has always reserved the best of her vitriol for Anne. I know showing up Anne is probably the only reason Mary wants to be my maid of honor.” Richiebitchie explains.
So they are clearly not on good terms but the money could mean a lot to the bride in the future.
The craziest part of the story is that this seems to be a hobby of Mary’s, paying people to get her own way, so the bride-to-be knows that she would pay up.
“She paid my brother to let her come to his graduation and make a speech, she paid up. She paid Anne to let her be a chaperone on her senior trip instead of mom, she paid up.
She pays my brother for information on what Anne will be wearing to certain events, Anne knows, she always pays up. When we were little she would give me candy to tell her what Anne’s diary said, Anne made stuff up for me to tell her, she always paid what she thought she owed.”
While it is a lot of money for just one deed on one day, the woman who posted it also doesn’t want to let her sister Mary in to the special day that Anne clearly deserves to be part of much more.
Redditors have given various pieces of advice such as this idea from Reddit user niobiumnnul:
“Instead, let her know she can gift you and your husband 5,000 and receive an invite to the wedding.
Otherwise, why have such a heinous person attend your wedding?”
Or this one from Goodluckwiththat1234:
“Never take money from someone with a personality like that. She will hold it over your head forever.
Before she offered, you guys would have gone ahead with your plans on how to deal with not having money. Act like it has never happen. Those strings attached will tie you up in knots.”
It’s a tricky situation and we have no idea how we would handle it.
