Woman says her boyfriend won't marry her until she loses weight 4 years ago

Woman says her boyfriend won't marry her until she loses weight


We've all been there - it's no fun having to break it to one of your friends that her boyfriend is actually a bit of a f*ckboy.


Being honest can be tough, but on this occasion we'd relish telling this lady to dump her man.

A woman has reached out for advice online after her other half admitted he was putting off marrying her for the worst reason.

Reddit user Toofat2wife (yes, really) wrote that her boyfriend of five years said he'd like to marry her and have kids but that "he doesn't see himself proposing until I've become more fit."

"My weight is something I've struggled with over the years since I was pretty much a teenager," she said.

She continued that she's now at a 'normal' weight (no such thing, in our opinion) but has recently put on weight due to an injury.

She claims that she wants to become more fit too but is upset that her boyfriend is using it as a condition of marriage.


The couple own a home together and have a "pretty solid life built together," the woman explained.

"He says that he wants to spend his life with me and that he isn't going to break up with me but he really wants to see me more fit. Marriage is more important to me than him, he would be okay with staying common law for the rest of our lives.

"I don't want to make a bad decision by breaking up with him if I'm simply over reacting. He's my best friend and I really enjoy our life together."

Girl, no.


It's fair to say she needs to kick this guy to the kerb ASAP and other Reddit users wasted no time in reminding her of that.

"He's telling her his love will always be conditional and that she's to blame if he withholds it from her because she's not good enough"

"You can really care about their well-being and want them to get healthy because you love the, but if weight is stopping you from committing to them, that ain't love."

"Get fit because it's healthy. Get fit if it makes you feel better. Get fit if you want to get fit. Don't get fit because your SO is making it a condition of marriage."

"Work on your fitness so you can run away from him."

"You're hot enough to bang, but not hot enough to marry. I'm sorry, OP, your bf is a douche. There are men out there who think you are hot enough to marry just as you are. Find one."