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11th Feb 2018

Women share the many, many reasons they’re not dating some men

Jade Hayden

There are lots of reasons why some women may decide they don’t want to date some men.

The man in question could be uninteresting.

He could be deceitful, a liar, untrustworthy, or a myriad of the many things that some men can be.

Or he could be perfectly lovely but just tends to draw pictures of his yoga teacher in the nude all the time.

Either or.

Rather than simply documenting all of the never-ending reasons some women decide they don’t want to date some men though, three women have decided to document the reasons why they haven’t wanted to date some men.

All under the guise of a pretty Instagram account too.

The ‘reasonswerenotdating’ account shares text photos each containing one reason why the woman in question is not dating the man in question.

The post also includes a detailed description of the context of the relationship and essentially, why things ended.

Some of the reasons are quite generic, like: “He started sending me loads of weird messages on Facebook.”

Standard.

I met Leon a few years ago in a bar. Leon studied Intelligence and Surveillance at university and was a bit vague about his job. We texted for a while but he seemed reluctant to commit to meeting up again, though a few days later he added me on Facebook. Not long after I accepted his friend request I received a string of strange badly spelt cryptic messages from him asking how we had met. Wondering what the hell was going on I called him and he promised he knew nothing about it but that he thought his computer might have been hacked. In fact apparently his phone seemed to have suffered a similar fate recently as he claimed it had randomly started sending abusive messages to his mum. At the time I thought he must be really high up in MI5 and I had been the victim of some kind of cyber hacking incident. In hindsight and with the cynicism a few years has brought me, I now realise he must have had a girlfriend who had logged into his Facebook and tried to catch him out for cheating on her with me… #thoughthewasjamesbond #thespywhodidntshagme #fuckboy #facebook #liar #cheat

A post shared by Reasons We’re Not Dating (@reasonswerenotdating) on

Others, though…

Others are not so standard.

Take a look for yourself, sure.

This was Crispin. Crispin was someone I knew when I was a child. We reconnected at a reunion when we were teenagers. He contacted me after and we started to hang out. I thought it was great because he was really generous and kept taking me for meals and buying takeaways then we would watch cool films together. One night I was sitting watching a film with him and he started stroking my leg and back. It was then I came to the chilling realisation that we had been dating this whole time. I immediately panicked and texted my friend to pick me up. As I left he went in for the kiss. I gave him my cheek. He was persistent and went in again. I gave him my other cheek. He tried a third time. I grabbed him in a hug and ran away. We never spoke again. #ithoughthewasagenerousfriend #notouchingplease #clueless #friendzone

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While the account started out just documenting the experiences of the three women, it eventually grew to start accepting collaborations from other people too.

There are only so many questionable dating stories three women can have, after all.

(There aren’t. The limit does not exist.)