There’s no doubt about it: weddings can be a very stressful time.
In those months (or even years) of planning, you want to make everyone happy and to guarantee they have a good night. But you also want to make sure you have the perfect day wit your partner – down to the very last detail.
However, sometimes things don’t quite as smoothly as you may have planned – leaving you wondering what could have been with your wedding day.
A Reddit thread asked the question “What’s the one thing you regret doing for your wedding day?” – and brides and grooms were more than happy to share.
1. Not letting people take photos
“My number one regret is telling people not to take pictures. I know it sounds dumb but it is much worse than that. In our agreement with our photographer she told us that other cameras were not allowed as the flash from another camera could ruin our pictures.
“So we politely told people to refrain from taking pictures and explained the situation. We had a great wedding and the photographer even sent an extra photographer to work the wedding (2 instead of 1).
“A few weeks after we tried contacting her for the photos. We got ghosted. We tried for about a year to track her down. We were still willing to pay for the photos, even unedited. We just wanted the photos.
“Fortunately some people didn’t get the message so we have a few (10-20) photos from our wedding. The worst part was that someone had contacted my wife through FB two weeks before the wedding warning us about her but we decided to take the risk because there probably was no way to get another photographer in that kind of time. When she showed for the date we were relieved and thought we dodged a bullet.” [x]
2. Not having flower girls
“Not having our grandmas as flower girls. We didn’t have anyone to be flower girls, and I didn’t think of asking grandmas until way after the wedding.” [x]
3. Not doing digital invitations
“Paper invitations and RSVPs. Set up a wedding site and have people RSVP there. The amount of stress I put myself through trying to get paper mailed back to me in an era when no one uses mail anymore was so unnecessary.
“At one point we’d gotten very few RSVPs back and I had a total crying meltdown about how no one was going to come. Of course they were going to come, it’s just no one uses mail anymore. Save yourself the headache and the money. It’s my biggest wedding regret.” [x]
4. Not eating a big meal beforehand
“Not having a good breakfast.
“We got married early in the day on a beach and all i could think about was how much i wanted a breakfast sandwich with eggs, cheese, and bacon on a toasted english muffin with just a touch of hot sauce!” [x]
5. Not limiting the guest list
“Inviting people I didn’t really want to invite. They just cost you money, you don’t interact with them at all, and they usually don’t bring a nice gift to make up for it.” [x]
6. Take a moment to enjoy it
“So the one thing I’m wicked glad we did and always advise people to do is take a moment to enjoy it. After we ate and went around saying hi to all the tables we took like 5 minutes, while everyone else was finishing dinner, and went and sat outside.
“It may have been brief but it really allowed us to appreciate what was going on and enjoy each other for a second.” [x]
7. Not slowing down walking down the aisle
“I wish I had walked slower down the aisle to my (now) husband. My dad and I both naturally take long strides when we walk, so what was supposed to be a 1-2 minute-long walk of suspense turned into a brisk 20-30-second stroll.” [x]
8. Not doing a hair trial
“I wound up with some weird Game of Thrones braids inspired mullet thing, and the curls fell out as soon as I left the hotel because it was super humid. I would have opted for something different.” [x]
