'She knew how much that meant to me.'

A bride-to-be has described her upset at her bridesmaid sharing a photo of her in her wedding dress without her permission. The woman had brought the bridesmaid along to her final dress fitting and saw the photo of herself in the dress at the fitting on Facebook when she got home, she said. The bridesmaid had even tagged the groom-to-be in the post. She revealed that she had asked anyone who had seen the dress to keep quiet about what it was like as she'd wanted to surprise her fiancé and her dad on the day. In a post on Mumsnet, the bride said she found her perfect dress after a long search, "something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious.

"Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see. "After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it). "She tagged my partner in it saying she bets he couldn’t wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is."

She got in touch with the bridesmaid to ask her to take it down, but the other woman simply said that it didn't matter that the groom had seen it as "he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in five minutes time." The dress had been fully paid for, she continued, and there wasn't time for alterations.

"I just don’t know what to do or how to feel!" she continued. "I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad. "She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner."

There was lots of sympathy for the bride-to-be from other Mumsnet users. Some questioned whether the bridesmaid should be un-invited from the wedding while others branded her as "attention-seeking". "She wanted the likes and to be the first to show. You have every right to feel disapointed and hurt." "I'm sorry but she should not be your friend or bridesmaid - I can't believe someone would do that."