Ghosting is shitty.
Whether you’re the one doing it or receiving it, it’s simply shitty.
And time and time again, we seem to be met by new dating trends just like it, that involve f*cking people over with no explanation. Lovely altogether.
But the latest dating trend with a weird name to grace our interest is actually one that we’re taking note of.
“Caspering” as it’s being called is the alternative to ghosting but with compassion. When it comes to ending things with someone you are seeing the “rip it off like a band-aid” approach does not work. Instead, you need to opt for a gentle approach, remember that although you’ve had enough, there is someone else genuinely invested and this news could evidently break their hearts.
So… to avoid acting and feeling like a dick, caspering could be the solution. The International Business Times created this phrase and this is how it works according to the creators.
“Try to leave [the person you’re caspering] with a compliment or some constructive feedback so they feel bolstered to keep on looking for love. For example: ‘It’s been really nice when you’ve thoughtfully asked me how my days have gone — that’s such a great trait, so thank you. Good luck for the future!'”
So instead of running for the hills with zero communication, a simple “I don’t think this is working out and I hate that it’s the case because you’re honestly so nice and funny…” is all you need.
Basically, whatever you want to say, end it on a positive note with a final compliment. Nobody likes being ghosted and complimenting someone one last time won’t hurt you and it could really benefit them, remember that.
