Putting it on Ice: The Simple Things That Could Be Ruining Your Sex Life

We all know that when you’re in a long-term, committed relationship your sex-life ebbs and flows a bit. One week you could be swinging from the chandeliers with your man, the next week the best you’ll get might just be a kiss and a quick cuddle.

Libido rises and falls naturally in both men and women. We’ve come to accept this as a biological fact. But are there other factors that are putting a dampener on the action you get between-the-sheets? Yes and yes.

Ladies, here are five simple things that could be putting your sex life on ice...

Is your love life a bit cold lately? Maybe something small is dampening the flames of passion?

Your sheets: First and foremost, when was the last time you changed them? There’s nothing sexy about sheets that have been slept in for a month. Strip your bed, put on some fresh ones and enjoy the glorious feeling of new sheets when you slide under the covers later.

Secondly, if you want to up the ante when it comes to your sex life, you need to have a boudoir not a bedroom. Relationship experts are sick of telling us that the boudoir should only be for two things: having a ride and sleeping and you know what women? They’re absolutely right.

Why not give your room a bit of a romantic makeover? Invest in luxurious sheets, soft lighting and a few candles. Make it a place that you and your man love being.

Your pyjamas: Here in Her.ie towers we know the comfort of an adult onesie and the joy it can bring (especially when it’s paired with chocolate and re-runs of Sex and the City). However, if you live with your man, maybe it’s time to rethink your choice of pyjamas because let’s face it – a onesie doesn’t exactly encourage the most passionate feelings.

We’re not saying that you have to sex up your night time attire completely, but why not treat yourself to a nice nighty or start wearing one of your man’s t-shirts to bed? If you really want to heat things up, you could even start sleeping naked…

Mess in the bedroom: Does your bedroom look like a bomb has hit it? Has a colony of dirty socks (yours and his) taken up residence beneath your bed? Are piles of ironing dotted everywhere? Not to get all Monica from Friends on you, but a messy bedroom isn’t sexy. Have a bit of a clean, make your bed in the morning and try not to make the place untidy. A cluttered bedroom means a cluttered, stressed-out mind. Remove the untidiness and watch your sex life warm up.

Technology: What’s the point in having an early night with your man if the two of you are just going to be glued to your phones/laptops checking Twitter and Facebook? Unplug and leave your technology outside the bedroom door.

Bad Television: Rather than wasting away hours of your life watching that episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians for the 19^th time in a row, get up, turn off the TV and bring your man to bed. Don’t wait until you’re absolutely exhausted before you make a move.