It makes a lot of sense.
Maybe you’re in a relationship and you know that you’ve met the person you want to spend the rest of your life with or maybe you’re just interested in the inner workings of a marriage.
Either way, getting married is a seriously major decision and even if you’re head over heels with your other half, it’s okay to feel a little nervous.
There are millions of books and discussions and articles about whether the one you’re with is the right one (hate that phrase but you know, needs must) and one we recently came across is How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking.
It’s penned by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola, husband and wife FYI, and they’ve come in up with some musings on the subject of getting wed and more importantly, keeping it that way.
In conversation with BRIDES, they also gave some tips on important questions to ask before walking down the aisle.
They listed quite a few but one that really struck us was is he/she “a person you can’t live without?”
Simple but effective.
If the answer is no, then you know that says it all and that when the chips are down, this is the person you want more than anyone else.
Rutola says:
“You can live with a lot of people but if you can’t live without that person, then you’re on the right path”.
Another one they recommend and this one should be posed to your partner is “even though you’re better at this, can I try it sometimes?”
This goes for cooking, cleaning, DIY, organisational skills and all the other responsibilities and tasks that might arise.
Behrendt says:
“Come at marriage like 50/50 shareholders because if you make somebody carry the burden of it, they can’t help but get resentful. If they argue that they’re better at a task than you, then you go, ‘I know, but I need to be able to do this too'”.
So if you’ve been self-sufficient for quite some time and used to doing certain things your way, it might be time to give your partner the chance to try, scary as that might seem!
