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7th October 2016
05:57pm BST

In conversation with Mind Body Green, Masini explained that when we start holding ourselves back, we rely more on pre-conceived dating rules than our gut instincts.
She also argues that someone who has been hurt may hold back on being authentic:
“If you're bracing yourself in your relationship, you're fighting against your authentic self. You might hide your strong opinions, pretend to like something you don’t, or neglect to honour your boundaries.”As well as lying to yourself, Masini argues that if you’re uncomfortable in the early stages of your relationship you’re more likely to start silently picking apart your partner. While you might really be sitting on cloud nine, if you’re feeling self-conscious you could start fixating on tiny flaws to convince yourself to call if off.
So how can you combat your fears of heartache?
Start talking.
If you’re feeling nervous, or need to slow down the pace of your coupling, have an honest breakdown of expectations or concerns and work out if the relationship is worth the risk.
Chances are, if you’re reading this, you want it to work out which is always a good start.Explore more on these topics: