A bride-to-be has threatened to uninvite guests to her wedding after they gave her small gifts instead of money at her engagement party.
The anonymous woman explained that she and her partner said on the invitation that they wanted cash from their gifts.
She added on Reddit that she was “hurt, bewildered, angry and irritated” when the guests began to show up with “small gifts that serve no purpose” instead of money.
Rather than politely accepting the gifts, the furious bride decided to send a mass text to the guests she was closest with to find out “where the miscommunication happened in our gift requests.”
“My fiancé and I planned an engagement-celebration and I specified on the invitation that we were requesting cash only in lieu of gifts.
“We have a mountain of debt and would like to start our marriage with a fresh slate and figured this would be a great opportunity to do so.
“Well, the party was last night and not one person brought us cash. They all brought small gifts that serve no purpose to us and it was hard for me to mask my irritation.
“We invited upwards of thirty people, most of which showed up and all we got out of it were some household items that we already have.
“I still tried my best to enjoy the party, but by 9pm I was over it and went to bed. The next day, after spending most of the night furious, I sent out a mass text basically asking guests I was close with where the miscommunication happened in our gift requests.
“I didn’t get many responses, but the responses I did get were pretty rude-which was shocking to me.
“I have been dreaming of my wedding day my entire life and you would think friends and loved-ones would want to help in making it perfect.
“I am thinking of dis-inviting those that responded rudely to me, but also I could give them another chance.
“We will be requesting cash as well and I have already sent out an email reiterating that cash is expected and not gifts and any gifts will be returned for cash or sold on eBay.”
She asked the other Reddit users what they would do, and for their thoughts on her dilemma – although we don’t think she got the answers she was quite expecting.
One person said:
“You sound insanely entitled and I would honestly say you should apologise.
“Plus, you already said you’re going to sell all of the gifts for money – so why didn’t you just do that and not say anything to anyone?”
Another added:
“If you’re at a point in your life where you need to be demanding cash from people, then you should probably postpone your wedding until your debt is better managed.
“The only person being rude is you, and if one of my supposed friends texted me asking where my cash gift was, I’d be ripping up any future wedding invitation.”
Someone else wrote:
“Wow you really need to re-evaluate your attitude. Your actions here are incredibly rude and entitled. You’re not going to have any guests at your wedding if you continue to alienate the people in your life like this.”
