A bride has told how her ‘party animal’ bridesmaid “ruined” her wedding by announcing her pregnancy during her wedding toast.
Taking to Reddit’s Am I The Asshole forum, the bride explained that she had gotten married recently – and had asked her three best friends, Anna, Kelly and Laura, to be bridesmaids.
“For the morning of my wedding I hired a fancy penthouse apartment for myself and the bridesmaids to get ready. We had champagne and as we were pouring it out, Laura said none for her,” the bride explained. “Now Laura is the biggest party animal of us all so naturally we questioned why she wasn’t drinking. Laura then told us she was pregnant.”
She added that while she was “of course” happy for Laura, her friend’s news meant that “the focus was then on Laura and her pregnancy and not us getting ready for my wedding, something I had been planning for 2 years.”
“Anyway. We all got ready and headed to the venue. The photographer kept us outside the venue for a short while so he could do posed photos with myself and the bridesmaids,” she continued.
“I was holding my bouquet, Anna and Kelly were holding theirs but Laura placed hers on the floor and was standing with her hands cradling her stomach as if to emphasise her bump (which wasn’t noticeable as she’s barely 12 weeks).”
The bride recalled how Laura was asked to pick up her flowers so everyone was holding their bouquets, but she refused and kept cradling her stomach – which made “those photos just look weird.”
She added that the rest of the day went smoothly, until the time came for the speeches.
“As Laura was my oldest friend naturally I asked her to say a few words. She stood up and said some nice words, then ended her speech with ‘and I’m so excited to announce that as Bride’s best friend, I’d like her to be an honorary aunt to my baby who is due summer 2020,'” the woman continued.
” With her being an old family friend of course my family were over the moon and again the attention was on her and her pregnancy and not me and my husband. I felt so upset on my wedding day and haven’t really spoke to Laura much since. She has since sent me a text saying I’m acting like a spoiled brat and the world doesn’t revolve around me.”
Many of the other Reddit users sided with the bride – and they were particularly unhappy with her pal for using her toast to announce her news.
“At first it seemed innocuous enough because you asked about her not drinking, but she spent the rest of the day deliberately drawing attention to her pregnancy and that’s rude af,” one person said. “You have every right to be upset and she owes you an apology, most specifically for using her toast to make an announcement to your entire wedding reception.”
“I was fine with her telling you she was pregnant, because you asked why she wasn’t drinking and I know if she said ‘oh, just because!’ someone would either guess, or push her until she said it anyway,” someone else wrote.
“But the rest of the stuff is awful. She needs to learn some manners. Those photos sound like they’re going to turn out ugly as heck, sorry to say, and she was absolutely wrong to actually make an announcement in her speech. I would be done with her as a friend and tell her to take the ‘honorary aunt-ship’ and stuff it.”
